Goldmine

"Loving parents should want to find out what they are unconsiously doing to their children. If they simply avoid the subject and instead point to their parental love, then they are not really concerned about their children's well-being, but rather are painstakingly trying to keep a clear conscience. This effort, which they have been making ever since they were little, prevents them from letting their love for their children unfold freely and from learning something from this love."--Alice Miller, For Your Own Good. There seems to be a fair amount of inauthentic parenting happening today. I am discouraged by parents who don't want to hear their children's stories, pains, and even rage. However, I am heartened that there are abundant resources to point people to the path to themselves. The movement toward our inner goldmines is a valuable one, as individuals and as a collective. What is does your essence look like? What are your coping mechanisms? How do you shine your light? Adults have the ability to look deeply into their well, and see who they really are. What can change? What do you think cannot be changed? What would you look like if you could find the sparkles and dark spots your parents gave you and find more of you outside of them? How can we re-nourish our inner voices, nurture that divine essence and draw it forward?